I was working with a group of students at Suffolk University and we were playing a game called "3 Things." 

The basic concept of the game: Player 1 looks at Player 2, says their name, and asks them for 3 items within a given category. 3 types of cars. 3 foods you might get at a restaurant. One of the main goals being to think less and just go. 

While playing with the game, one of the students got the category of "3 State Capitals" and they immediately looked, laughed in disbelief, and then said "I don't know state capitals." 

And I said, "Man, fair. Make em up. I even fed him Trenton, NJ."

I will always shamelessly plug NJ.

In the process of doing this, I was reminded that we have the ability to set one another up for success. Especially when we don't know other people super well, the questions we ask the people around us can set them up for succcess or failure. State capitals are incredibly difficult, and not something we encounter on a daily basis. 3 specific states? Much more manageable. And, that said, if we know the person who we are dealing with knows this information, set them up for a win! Give them a chance to look good in front of the people around us. 

So today, when you are at work, or amongst friends, and you know their strengths & weaknesses, think about the questions we ask. Are you putting a homie in a position to win? Are you giving your questions much thought? And if you see your teammate struggling, are you modifying your question to meet them halfway? 

Ponder a 3 things category you might ask somebody today. Think on these questions, test them out, and as always, take L's and move forward.

Later,

Littlejohn